To clarify, the husband and I have been discussing the possibility of shaking things up in our life, and taking a season of travelling in the near future. Neither of us have traveled outside the country before, nor have we backpacked before.
Please share your advice and experiences - What was fun, what was hard, what did you have to give up, how long did you do it for, how long would you LIKE to do it for, what did you miss, what didn’t you miss, why did you love it, what did you dislike about it….
1. Accept nothing but a proper date the first few times you go out. I don’t care if it is a ballgame that costs $5. Ice cream on picnic tables or dessert at a coffee shop. Money has nothing to do with it. Intention is the key.
2. Go somewhere neutral. A club is not a date. Bumping and grinding on someone you just met will probably not get you flowers or a love note or a date with that person three months from now. The only thing that will come of this is another notch on his belt.
3. Waffling should trigger your creep meter. Good guys take their commitments seriously and plan. Plans can go awry…and if they do, is he the type that leaves you hanging with lame excuses or the one that will give you a heartfelt apology?
4. If he says everything right and does everything wrong, he is wrong. Actions don’t lie.
If he says everything right and does everything wrong, he is wrong. Actions don’t lie.
Great advice. Don’t make excuses for their behaviour. Don’t settle for someone who puts on the appearance and does the minimum to keep the comfort that being with you might bring.